Life is not always easy! In fact, it rarely is. But, you can overcome any crisis or challenge with these “Top Ten Strategies for Overcoming Personal Crisis.”
“Prepare now or pay later. If you prepared now then you will be ready to face any crisis or challenge with the skills and character that you have build over time.” (Gerald Paul – aka “G”)
Treasure those “easy” moments in life because they can be few and far between. Life, and the journey to success, is filled with obstacles to overcome and pitfalls to avoid. To make things even more difficult, as if we needed things to be “more difficult,” there will be times of intense crisis that will threaten to undo everything you are.
The possibility of experiencing a crisis lies around every corner. The most important thing you can do for yourself is this: prepare now so that you don’t pay later.
If you “prepare now,” then you will be able to increase the frequency and duration of those easy moments. Prepare now and you will see a visible improvement in the level of your success and happiness in life.
Preparation is the key! If you wait for the crisis to hit, then it will be too late.
When you are in the middle of a crisis it is much easier to rely on the skills and knowledge that you already possess, than it is to develop new skills and knowledge. You ‘can’ develop new skills and increase your knowledge while you are in the midst of a crisis, and I encourage you to do so, but it is a much more difficult and painful process. It is much easier to prepare before the crisis hits.
This article will give a brief summary of G Strategies™ one to five for “Overcoming Personal Crisis”—ensuing articles will focus on each of the G Strategies™ in more detail. These growth strategies will help you prepare now so that you don’t pay later. They will also help you to maintain or regain momentum when crisis hits.
G Strategy #1 for Overcoming Personal Crisis: Allow Yourself to Mourn…or Cry
Allow yourself to feel and acknowledge your real emotions.
When you are experiencing crushing hurt, pain, or sadness because of some crisis of circumstance or relationship, it is OK to cry. Women get this, men often don’t. Women will allow themselves to experience and express deep emotional pain, while men are much more likely to suppress painful emotions.
There are times when it is important to mourn and perhaps even cry over an event or a loss. Tears are not the point. Experiencing or mourning the loss in your own way is what matters.
G Strategy #2 for Overcoming Personal Crisis: View Emotions as Your Friend
In over twenty five years of coaching people I have found that dealing with emotions is one of the greatest struggles that people have. Emotional maturity is vital in success and happiness. Unfortunately, most people don’t know what to do with their emotions. They don’t understand them, they fear them, and they are ruled by them. This is even truer during times of crisis.
Emotions are not your enemy, they are your friend. In fact, they are your most intimate and knowledgeable coach and guide. Your emotions can help you understand yourself as no one else can. And that self understanding can lead to better decisions and more productive action.
G Strategy #3 for Overcoming Personal Crisis: Take Responsibility
The refusal to take responsibility for ourselves, our decisions, our beliefs, and our actions is one of the most prevalent barriers to success.
“Preparation is the key! If you wait for the crisis to hit, then it will be too late.” (Gerald Paul – aka “G”)
This refusal to accept responsibility is made worse by the overwhelming tendency to play the blame game. Not only do we refuse to take responsibility, but we are eager to point out that fault must lie with someone else.
People may contribute to—or perhaps even cause—the crisis or challenge that you are experiencing, but you, and you alone, choose how you will deal with it, how you will respond to it, and when you will move on from it.
Successful people take personal responsibility for their circumstances and for finding a way out. Never allow a crisis or challenge to diminish the importance of personal responsibility.
G Strategy #4 for Overcoming Personal Crisis: Things Do Not Change…We Change
People want their circumstances to change and their life to get better—we all do. The problem is that they don’t understand this important and fundamental principle:
“Things do not change…we change.” (Henry David Thoreau)
There is no way around this truth. If you want to move on from your circumstances, then ‘you’ have to change. The simple reality is that things in your life don’t change until you change.
It is vital to remember this when you are in the midst of a crisis. It is more important to focus on you and your response to the crisis, than it is to try and change the crisis.
The only thing that you can change is yourself. Trying to control anything else is an exercise in futility. You are the only thing in life that you have control over.
G Strategy #5 for Overcoming Personal Crisis: Don’t Lose Focus
“Focus” is the focus of success and happiness. Without focus nothing productive happens. Without focus no forward momentum can be achieved. Without focus the crisis will always get the best of you.
One of the greatest dangers of personal crisis is that it will cause you to lose focus.
It is hard to maintain focus while experiencing extremely difficult circumstances. The crisis appears so large, so immediate, and so overwhelming that everything else is blocked from your vision.
Don’t take your eye off the ball. Don’t allow yourself to lose focus of the big picture. Keep your eyes on the prize, and the direction you have chosen for your life.
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These “Top Ten Strategies for Overcoming Personal Crisis” are crucial in the journey to success, as well as the maintenance of sanity and personal peace (well-being) in this stress filled world.
Always remember, it is much easier to prepare in advance for times of crisis. Prepare now so that you don’t pay later. Prepare now, so that when crisis hits you will have a full set of skills in your arsenal. Prepare now, so that nothing will hinder your ability to succeed and find happiness.
This means you must take responsibility for your life. Stop playing the blame game today, and focus instead on how you need to change to overcome crises and experience success and happiness.
The next article in this series will summarize G Strategies six to ten in the “Top Ten Strategies for Overcoming Personal Crisis.”
Prepare now and you will achieve more than you thought possible.